Did you recently meet a great guy and now you feel that you slept with him too soon? If you’re experiencing this, don’t panic. We all make mistakes in relationships and luckily most of them, including this one, can be undone. If you feel that you were intimate too early in the relationship and he’s now avoiding you or his interest seems to have fallen off, there’s advice you need to read. You can actually grab hold of his attention again and build a long lasting, fulfilling relationship with him if you’ve developed feelings for him. Don’t allow your one mistake to rule your future with this man.
If you slept with him too soon your impulse now may be to call him up and explain to him that you’re just not that type of woman. Even if this is the first time you’ve been intimate with a man so early in the relationship, don’t make the call. You’ll simply be drawing even more attention to your mistake and he may feel that you’re working too hard to justify your behavior. Most men unfortunately do jump to strong conclusions about women based on the timing of sex. They start to wonder if you have been intimate as quickly with your other partners. This can be a turn off depending on the man and if you bring it up again, after the fact, it’s just going to be a reminder to him. The best thing you can do is not talk to him about it right now. Wait to do that until you two have established a stronger dating relationship.
You also need to work at showing him that there’s more to you than what he’s experienced to this point. Invite him out for dinner or a movie. Keep the date platonic though and don’t allow yourself to end up in a position where intimacy will be expected. A good approach is to agree to meet him at a restaurant or theatre. That way you can say your goodnights there and go home in your own car.
You do need to be mindful of not carrying the label of a tease though. Some men will expect you to be intimate on every date if you slept with him quickly. You need to be the judge of how often this can happen but just ensure that it doesn’t define the entire relationship. There’s nothing wrong with coming up with an excuse or two for why you can’t sleep with him. He’ll soon get the sense that your interest in him isn’t only about what goes on in the bedroom. This will help set the a new tone for the relationship.